That's a consequence of
Engel's Theorem: If $V\neq 0$ is a finite-dimensional representation of a Lie algebra ${\mathfrak g}$ such that any $X\in{\mathfrak g}$ acts nilpotently on $V$, then $0\neq V^{\mathfrak g} := \{v\in V\ |\ X.v=0\text{ for all } X\in{\mathfrak g}\}$.
Now suppose that ${\mathfrak h}\subsetneq {\mathfrak t}$ are two nilpotent subalgebras of your given algebra ${\mathfrak g}$. Then ${\mathfrak h}$ acts on ${\mathfrak t}/{\mathfrak h}$ by the adjoint action (this is not meant to say that ${\mathfrak t}/{\mathfrak h}$ inherits a Lie algebra structure, and we do not need to assume that ${\mathfrak h}$ is an ideal here), and by the nilpotency of ${\mathfrak t}$, the hypothesis of Engel's Theorem is satisfied. Hence you find some $0\neq\overline{T}\in{\mathfrak t}/{\mathfrak h}$ such that $0=[\overline{H},\overline{T}]=\overline{[H,T]}$ in ${\mathfrak t}/{\mathfrak h}$ for all $H\in{\mathfrak h}$ - in other words, $T\in{\mathfrak t}\setminus{\mathfrak h}$ but $[H,T]\in{\mathfrak h}$ for all $H\in{\mathfrak h}$. Hence $T\in{\mathfrak n}_{\mathfrak g}({\mathfrak h})\setminus{\mathfrak h}$.