In general, if $f\colon X\to Y$ is a map, the relation $\sim_f$ defined on $X$ by
$$
a\sim_f b\qquad\text{if and only if}\qquad f(a)=f(b)
$$
is an equivalence relation. All three properties are very easy to verify.
Your relation is a special case of this one, by considering the function $f\colon\mathbb{Z}\times\mathbb{Z}\to\mathbb{Z}$ defined by
$$
f\colon (a,b)\mapsto a+b
$$
If you don't want to use this general fact, you have to do the checks right: the reflexive property means that, for all $(a,b)\in\mathbb{Z}\times\mathbb{Z}$ it holds
$$
(a,b)\sim (a,b)
$$
Remember it should hold for every element of the set. Similarly, the symmetry is
$$
\text{if $(a,b)\sim (c,d)$, then $(c,d)\sim (a,b)$}
$$
and the transitivity is
$$
\text{if $(a,b)\sim(c,d)$ and $(c,d)\sim(e,f)$, then $(a,b)\sim(e,f)$.}
$$
Just apply the definition of $\sim$.