In a perfect scenario, there will actually be no external forces doing work on the car, and therefore the car will continue at that speed forever, without the need for a driving force from the engine. On a completely flat road, there will be no difference in "oomph" from one speed to another. That "oomph" you might feel can only be due to acceleration or a placebo due to the ground moving relative to you.
In order to explain, let's imagine an idealized system with a four wheel drive car, where we ignore all non-conservative forces such as air resistance, rolling resistance etc. except for the friction between the car and the road.
If the car is not skidding along the road, it is in fact static friction (not kinetic friction) that is acting on all the wheels as either an "opposition" to the driving force of the engine or to the rolling of the wheel. This frictional force increases depending on the driving force, until it reaches a maximum, where the car might skid or "lose traction".
In our case, since the car is not skidding, the bottom point of the wheel is at zero velocity (look up "rolling without slipping"). This static friction is what actually pushes the car forward.
Now assuming these perfect conditions without a driving force from the engine, the car will in fact roll forever due to its momentum and the fact that no forces are doing work on it. Although the friction is ultimately what accelerates the car forward, it does no work as it acts at a point of zero velocity.
Now if we remove the idealizations and add back, let's say, air resistance (which is maybe how you were thinking of "kinetic friction"), then the car will of course slow down without a driving force. Therefore, the driving force does need to equal any of these frictional forces (air resistance, rolling resistance etc.) in order to keep it at the same velocity. These frictional forces tend to be higher at higher speeds, (such as air resistance, which equals $kv^2$) which will indeed mean that the driving force has to be slightly higher. But either way, if the car is traveling at a constant speed, these forces will cancel and the "oomph" should be the same.