The kinetic energy of a system $p^2/2m$ in real space representation takes the form $-\hbar^2\nabla^2/2m$. I want to express this in cylindrical coordinates via the representation of the laplace operator Wikipedia. This is $$\nabla^2 = \frac{1}{r}\partial_r(r\partial_r)+\frac{1}{r^2}\partial^2_\varphi + \partial^2_z.$$ Expanding the radial part yields $\frac{1}{r}\partial_r+\partial^2_r$. While I know that the second derivative is a hermitian operator, this is not true for the first derivative. The factor if $i$ that comes with $$p = -i\hbar\nabla$$ takes care that the operator $p$ is really hermitian, however here it is missing. How can I see that the radial component is still hermitian in this representation?
Bonus: Eventually I want to implement this numerically using finite differences method. The stencil for $\partial^2_r$ is $[1,-2,1]$ which results in a hermitian matrix. For $\partial_r$ however, the stencil is $[-1/2,0,1/2]$ which takes a minus sign if I do hermitian conjugate.