Let $\psi (x,y,z)$ be a scalar field. I found the following statement in Morse & Feshbach Methods of Theoretical Physics:
The limiting value of the difference between $\psi$ at a point and the average value of $\psi$ at neighboring points is $-\frac{1}{6}(dxdydz)^2\nabla ^2\psi$
By taking a small sphere centered at the point of radius $r$, I was able to show that the difference between $\psi$ at a point and the average value of $\psi$ at neighboring points equals $-\frac{1}{6}r^2\nabla ^2\psi$. But I have not been able to get the expression given in the book. Thanks.
Edit: To obtain $-\frac{1}{6}r^2\nabla ^2\psi$ I first expanded $\psi$ in a Taylor series up to quadratic terms about the point in question. Then I integrated $\psi$ (rather, its Taylor expansion up to quadratic terms) over the surface of a small sphere of radius $r$ centered at the given point and divided this by the surface are of the sphere (this gives the average value of $\psi$ in the sphere). Subtracting this average from the value of $\psi$ at the center of the sphere gives the result $-\frac{1}{6}r^2\nabla ^2\psi$.