There seems to be some confusion here - the perception of "heat" from an IR lamp relates to the amount of energy absorbed by the body. This depends on the reflectivity of the skin at that particular wavelength; also, you would have to normalize this in some way.
Now we know from Planck's Law that there is a distribution of wavelengths from a black body: the peak emission goes to shorter wavelengths as the body gets hotter. Importantly though, at any given wavelength the emission density is great eras the temperature of the black body goes up.
It is not directly possible to answer your question without somehow deciding how to normalize the intensity: if we decrease the wavelength of the IR by making the emitter hotter, we will always experience greater heating.
I recommend that you look for reflectivity curves for skin: if the skin absorbs the radiation it will feel warm. Everything else is a matter of how you normalize.