While answers that say something along the lines of : "if an object is not a black hole in one reference frame then it is not a black hole in any reference frame" are technically correct, they are not satisfying as they do not explain why the alleged increase in mass of the test object does not eventually gravitationally collapse the moving object.
The simplest explanation is that not only does mass and length change at relativistic speeds, but other factors like time dilation and force transformation play a part. In relativity, transverse force is reduced by a factor of gamma when the test object is moving relative to the observer. This is true for any transverse force. Consider the following scenario: A scientist drops a mass from 9.8m above the surface at the North Pole. It takes $t_0 = 1$ second to fall by the scientist's measurements. He calculates the acceleration $a_0 = L_0 t_0^{-2} = 9.8 \ m/s^2$. An advanced alien happens to be flying past from East to West at $v/c = \sqrt{3/4}$ such that the gamma factor is $\gamma = 2. $ Due to time dilation, he measures the time to fall a vertical distance of $L$ as 2 seconds and calculates the acceleration to be $L_0 t_0^{-2} \gamma ^{-2} = 9.8/4 \ m/s^2 $. In other words, the force of gravity on the surface of the Earth appears to be weaker to the passing Alien. Objects appear to fall in slow motion.
Since the discussion implicitly introduced the concept of relativistic mass, I will stay with that and say the mass of the test object has increased by a factor of gamma. We can now calculate the force acting on the test object with rest mass of $m_0$ and acceleration $a_0$ in the rest frame as $F = m a = (M_0 \gamma )(a_0 \gamma^{-2}) = F_0 \gamma^{-1}$ as stated earlier. If we consider an object on the surface of the Earth as part of the Earth's crust, the gravitational force acting on it is weaker according to the passing observer and there is no danger of the Earth crust collapsing inward, no matter how fast the observer is passing.
Another factor to ponder is that in Newtonian physics, transverse and parallel inertial mass, momentum mass, gravitational source and target mass, kinetic mass are all the same thing, but in relativity they are not. This is what Einstein was alluding to when he stated "It is not good to introduce the concept of the mass of a moving body for which no clear definition can be given."