Let's consider the definition of 3-force in different theories:
- Newtonian mechanics
In Newtonian mechanics, we can define the force as a cause of changing momentum $p=m\vec{v}$ with time. According to the Second Newton law: $$\vec{F} = \frac{d\vec{p}}{dt},$$ or in the coordinate form: $$F^i = \frac{dp^i}{dt},$$ where $i = 1\ldots 3$, and $t$ -- is the absolute time here.
- Special Relativity (SR) (let $c = 1$)
In Special Relativity the time is not absolute and it is better to formulate SR in Minkowsky space-time with metric: $$ds = dt^2 - \delta_{ik}dx^idx^{k},$$ $i,k = 1 \ldots 3$.
Firstly, we can introduce 4-displacement vector $dx^{\mu}$: $$dx^{\mu} = (dt,-dx,-dy,-dz).$$
Secondly, we can introduce a 4-momentum vector: $$p^{\mu} = m\frac{dx^{\mu}}{ds}$$
And we can introduce 4-force as $$\mathcal{F}^{\mu} = \frac{dp^\mu}{ds}.$$
Now we want to introduce 3-force.
Firstly, the spatial components of 4-momentum are: $$p^i = m\frac{dx^i}{ds} = m\gamma \frac{dx^i}{dt}.$$
Secondly, the spatial components of 4-force are not 3-force: $$\mathcal{F}^i = \frac{dp^i}{ds} = \gamma \frac{dp^i}{dt},$$ where $\gamma^2 = \frac{1}{1 - v^2}$ and $t$ -- is coordinate time (not proper time).
Thirdly, to determine the 3-force, we need to remember the definition of force in Newtonian mechanics, there the force is equal to the change 3-momentum with time $F^i = \frac{dp^i}{dt}$, and from the last equation we conclude the relation between spatial components of 4-force and 3-force: $$F^i = \frac{1}{\gamma}\mathcal{F}^i = \frac{1}{\gamma}\frac{dp^i}{ds}.$$
- General Relativity (GR)
In General Relativity (GR) the almost general form of metrics has a form: $$ds^2 = g_{\mu\nu}dx^{\mu}dx^{\nu},$$ and 4-force is the covatiant derivative of 4-momentum (covariant derivative necessary for 4-force to be a vector), and its spatial components are: $$\mathcal{F^i} = m\frac{Dp^i}{ds}.$$
How can I define 3-force in curved space?