I want to start off by saying that I've looked around for other explanations, but I've not really found any satisfying ones. My question is basically the whole "Why can anything move at all?" question, with a little twist. Refer to this picture:

Now I understand that opposite forces act on different objects, so in the top one, the rocket would have a net force of a 100 N to the right, and accelerate, as per Newton's Second Law. However, in the bottom example, wouldn't the box push back on the rocket, equal and opposite, as the rocket pushes on the box, therefore cancelling the forward push from the exhaust, making the rocket not move at all, whilst the box gets a net force of a 100 N?
This isn't true obviously, but why not? Also, in this earlier Phys.SE post there is a great answer depicting a finger and a matchbox. Now this post is very related to mine. I'm wondering why in that picture, the force of the finger pushing on the matches doesn't equal the force of the muscles pushing forwards in the finger? Surely when I'm having a force pushing the finger forwards, that same force applies to the matches?