Consider two black holes traveling near the speed of light towards each other. No rotation, charge or other complexities and they are of equal mass. They move at near the speed of light towards each other. They pass each other very very close but not close enough to have any debate about merging. About one year later one of them is seen one light year down the road somewhere and that is my definition of not merging. I don't care if in a trillion years they come back together.
Because nothing can escape a black hole, setting aside things like Hawking Radiation, if their event horizons touch they can't re-separate (correct?). If the escape velocity is the speed of light at the event horizon but the center of masses of them pass far from the event horizon would the fact the event horizons barely touch cause them to essentially come to a halt just after they were traveling close to the speed of light. Obviously I could imagine some deformed blob forming and stretching out briefly but still connected and ?ringing down? ?in seconds? to a single rapidly spinning black hole. Not a "hard" stop but one where you still are amazed that something moving so fast got sucked up in a short distance with nothing close to a collision. Just a brush.
But if they are 1 Planck length further apart at closest approach will it still follow that parabolic path and show up one light year down the road in just over one year? After all they are both exceeding escape velocity perhaps significantly so.
Their centers' of mass are well outside of what is needed to "escape" yet their surfaces, for lack of a better word, are not. What happens and is the difference of a small distance closer, enough to make a dramatic change in the direction and momentum of movement in a short period of time?
Ok. Either a LIGO like event occurs or it does not. Then use your description of my intent. I'm not an expert. If a LIGO event does not occur I assume that the objects pass by each other as conventionally described. Perhaps bleeding some speed off due to gravitational radiation but that's just a guess. If my usage of "merge" is sloppy I hope it can be cleaned up and still have a valid question. Thanks. – Dan Wood Jun 27 '22 at 05:50