I'm currently searching for an elaborate referece that covers most of the approximation errors for elliptic second order problems (like, for the laplacian dirichlet problem) by using finite element methods in 2D and 3D.
For example in 2D, you can receive an optimal error estimate: $$ \| u - R_hu \|_{H^1} = \mathcal{O}(h^r), $$ where $R_h: V \to V_h$ is the Ritz-Projector (aka Galerkin-Projector) from the conformal space $V$, where the variational problem is stated, into the FE-space $V_h$ of piecewise polynomials of degree $r$ (with proper zero conditions on the right boundary edges) on a mesh of mesh-size $h$. Of course, this only works if we assume the solution to be regular enough, i.e. $u \in H^{r+1} \cap V$.
At university, i worked primary with the book of Braess, which is pretty much the standard literature in germany, but it only covers the cases in 2D. I assume similar results can be obtained in 3D, but might get a bit complicated.