i have made the following transition diagram

There are a few thinks i would like to do, on node 1,2,3 i would like the inner arrows to have no overlab, i looks silly, also if node 1 and 5 could be aligned, doesn't matter if 5 is moved down or 1 is moved up. I am still pretty new at tikz, but hope one of you kan help. Code below.
Thanks!
Steffen
\documentclass[a4paper,oneside,article]{memoir}
\usepackage{tikz}
\usetikzlibrary{arrows}
\begin{document}
\begin{tikzpicture}[->,,>=stealth',shorten >=1pt,node distance=2cm,
thick,main node/.style={circle,draw,font=\sffamily\Large\bfseries}]
\node[main node] (1) {1};
\node[main node] (2) [below left of=1] {2};
\node[main node] (3) [below right of=1] {3};
\node[main node] (4) [right of=3] {4};
\node[main node] (5) [above of=4] {5};
\node[main node] (6) [right of=4] {6};
\path[every node/.style={font=\sffamily\small}]
(1) edge [bend right] node {} (2)
edge [bend right] node {} (3)
edge [loop above] node {} (1)
(2) edge [bend right] node {} (1)
edge [bend left] node {} (3)
edge [loop below] node {} (2)
(3) edge [bend right] node {} (1)
edge [bend left] node {} (2)
edge [loop below] node {} (3)
(4) edge [bend right] node {} (5)
edge node {} (3)
edge node {} (6)
edge [loop below] node {} (4)
(5) edge [bend right] node {} (4)
edge [loop above] node {} (5)
(6) edge [loop right] node {} (6)
;
\end{tikzpicture}
\end{document}

arrows.metaare capitalized. So it should be>=Stealth.stealthwould activate the old arrow tip without the functionality of the new library. (The oldstealth'arrow tip is nowStealth[round].) – Qrrbrbirlbel May 06 '15 at 11:47