I have looked around for a solution that allows me to vertically centrally align a multirow row that spans two intermediate rows, which potentially span multiple lines since the tabular environment is tabularx.
Some other questions that don't quite get to the solution are here, here, and here. These solutions use the fixup parameter to multirow that I really would not like to use, or they are not quite applicable to my case.
So, to give an example
\documentclass{article}
\usepackage{tabularx, multirow, booktabs, lipsum}
\begin{document}
\begin{table}[ht]
\begin{tabularx}{\textwidth}{XXX}
\toprule
a & the first very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very long line. & a \\
\multirow{2}{*}{b} & a very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very long line. & \multirow{2}{*}{b} \\
& another very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very long line. & \\
\bottomrule
\end{tabularx}
\end{table}
\end{document}
I would like the "b"s to be vertically centrally aligned. I am not tied in any way to multirow, but I am to tabularx and would very much prefer an automatic solution.

"tied in any way to multirow"? If you are just after centering the text vertically as well as horizontally in each cell (not in multirow cells), then\renewcommand{\tabularxcolumn}[1]{>{\arraybackslash}m{#1}}will work. Then you can also define a new column type for horizontal centering. – hpesoj626 Oct 17 '12 at 07:37multirowpackage does. But I might be mistaken. – hpesoj626 Oct 17 '12 at 07:46multirowenables one to write text that spans several rows. As explained by @Philipp in his answer here, "multirow is not capable of a correct vertical alignment, if it spans multi-line cells" – hpesoj626 Oct 17 '12 at 07:53multirowin its favor. A number of the other solutions linked in the main question do just that, build solutions which do not require the use of themultirowpackage. – tchakravarty Oct 17 '12 at 07:53multirowdoes part of what I want. With or withoutmultirowI'd like a solution to my entire requirement. :) – tchakravarty Oct 17 '12 at 07:55